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10 januari 2023
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Systemic Constellations: Revealing Unconscious Patterns

Systemic Constellations: Revealing unconscious patterns In constellations to live a healthier life

Systemic Constellations: Revealing Unconscious Patterns

Capturing the Essence of Constellations

We begin with an unusual story of taming wild elephants. Although it may seem unrelated to the exploration of releasing outdated patterns and working with systemic constellations, it offers valuable insight. Just as young elephants are captured and tethered, we too can be constrained by hidden patterns that restrict our life choices.

Individual Patterns 

Imagine an individual who grew up in their family-of-origin with an unconscious pattern of being “the peacemaker.” This pattern served them well in navigating their family’s dysfunction, but in adulthood, it limits their self-expression and ability to sustain long-term relationships. How can they express anger when their pattern demands peacemaking? Constellations offer a path to breaking free from this limiting pattern.

Systemic Constellations Revealing Unconscious Patterns

Organisational Patterns

Consider an organisation plagued by a cycle of leaders in a specific position who either get fired or burn out. The organisation blames these leaders, but maybe there’s a systemic pattern at play. Constellations reveal hidden dynamics, shedding light on the organisation’s history and its impact on the role. This understanding can redirect energy towards thriving rather than just surviving.

Uncovering Unconscious Patterns

These patterns often elude our conscious awareness, entwining themselves into the fabric of daily life. We excel at justifying these patterns, maintaining the status quo. However, if we’re open to change, constellations can unveil these unconscious patterns, offering us alternatives.

Setting Up Constellations

The process begins with a dialogue to identify dissatisfaction or desired change. Then, we physically represent relevant aspects of the situation, using people or objects as representatives. The constellation allows us to explore emotional dynamics, relationships, and broader contexts. It’s an experimental and systematic observation, often revealing insights through spatial layout.

Observation with Curiosity and Inclusion

During a constellation, we observe where energy flows, who connects with whom, and who is left out. These physical representations often reveal hidden emotional connections. For example, leaders in our earlier scenario who consistently fail might be isolated and sad however this isolation may connect to unresolved grief within the organisation. Bringing in a representative to embody these deeper links can unlock hidden tensions.

Recognising and Transforming Patterns

Once we name and understand these patterns, we can begin the work of replacing them with updated thinking. The peacemaker learns that anger can be expressed safely, and the organisation acknowledges unresolved history. This process is akin to installing updated “software”, allowing for personal and organisational growth.

Beyond Blame and Victimhood

In constellations, everyone and everything has a right to belong. We don’t seek blame but aim to understand why things are the way they are. Recognising suffering can be an essential part of the releasing process. Constellations offer us the opportunity to free ourselves from limiting possibilities and even rewrite what’s possible.

Unlock Your Potential

Research on neuroplasticity shows our brains can create new neural pathways, enabling us to rewire ourselves. “The Brain That Changes Itself” by Norman Doidge explores this remarkable plasticity of the human brain. Case studies reveal how the brain can rewire itself to overcome challenges, from recovering from injuries to adapting to new experiences.

Constellations can help us identify and transform patterns holding us back. If you’re interested in exploring this transformative process, please reach out.

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Our new member of the Kollektive, Axel Bunnik

Axel joins the Kollective

A warm welcome to Axel joining the YoungIMPULS project!

What makes Axel, Axel?

I feel I’m a late bloomer. I don’t know why, but the nice thing about late bloomers is they tend to flower for a longer time than those that come earlier in the year. I like to choose things for myself; sometimes that can lead to a struggle and you lose people along the way, but it also means that I feel good about myself. I’m a reflective person, I self-reflect all day, in fact my kids do the same. I like being that way, it means I connect with others, making conscious choices about how I show up.

I’m a father of two sons, born 2006 and 2005. I was relatively older becoming a father at 46 years old.

Me and my work

Before becoming a parent, I traveled the world. I love to do so by bicycle, taking cycling vacations to Thailand, New Zealand the United States spending a few weeks at a time in each country. In France, I became known as the ‘bike repair man’ by US cyclists who for some reason didn’t know how to fix their bikes. I was always the one with the greasy hands.

I love adventure and I find myself sometimes wanting to do too much, so I rein myself in by saying: “ do what you need to do and don’t get distracted ” – the problem is there is always so much life beyond the front door !

I play the bass, what I love about that is that as a bassist in the band you’re the one responsible for the ‘dance,’ blending harmony with rhythm – this reflects something about how I am in life.

My company, Fat Elephant

www.fatelephant.nl

I work intuitively and creatively giving people lots of room to be themselves and discover their own qualities. I also bring trust and I reckon most of the time you wouldn’t even notice me; it’s a bit like the bass in music, without it ‘the dance’ just wouldn’t happen. In spite of my corporate work being mostly about sales, I’m not the kind of person that buys into the ‘push, push, push!’ sales rhetoric. As with KOLIMBRI, I work in a way that is relational, even if it’s about sales, my belief is the relationship-building is fundamental.

Axel and YoungIMPULS

I love to help people to connect with Dutch community, especially working with refugees to help them find their own way; it’s not about changing themselves, rather it’s about how we can collectively find ways to live together in such a way that the Netherlands becomes our shared home. Making these connections to one another through using culture and art feels exciting.

My favorite Curiously Connected Cards

When I first saw the Cards, I felt drawn to the Butterfly – it represents something about what’s possible when chaos is allowed to be there. It’s also colourful, always light and you can’t blow it away. The butterfly folds its wings when it’s windy and stormy, then opens them up again to flutter about – so resilient for such a small being. Elephant is my second choice: you can see from my company’s name fat elephant, that I’m connected to them. They’re very social creatures. Something also about that old adage the ‘elephant in the room’ is important. Huge-bodied as they are, elephant has the capacity to break everything, yet it also reminds us that we can’t really progress unless we talk about the things that really matter, and sometimes it’s the fat elephant staring right at us.

Me and the Collective

I feel there is some direction that I can give to the Kollective around creating and bringing together creative minds. My first step though is to get to know people better, so that the Kollective feels like our mutual home. What would nourish me? Tickle my brains! I love the bandwidth of ages and perspectives that the YoungIMPULS project is already bringing me.

What helps me Thrive?

Put simply, it’s being myself and making space for one another; listening with honesty.